May 11, 2000
Signs
age: 33
gender: female
Dear Kristo,
I have recently been through a very difficult time. While going through a divorce, painful as it was, I realized I did not need to make any more changes in my life and to stay put and wait. For the past seven months I have waited. Very recently, my mother informed me she would be relocating to a new state (further away than she is now) and wanted me to consider relocating myself. I have a good job, own my home and am raising 3 children by myself and thought I would stay here forever. For some reason though, I feel compelled to move to this new town. It is hard to explain but I feel it has the potential to change my life for the positive. I prayed and asked for a sign that this would be beneficial. The next morning, I had a dream of driving my children to a beautiful church in a next town. The surroundings were not familiar to me and it was not my current parish. The following evening, my mother called me and recounted a dream she had the day before. It was the same dream. It shocked both of us but now I feel it is a sign that I am to move.
I guess my question is, should I continue to wait for more signs about what I should do with my future or will this move bring me to my correct path? I also dream frequently of stagnant water which brings me to believe I am not progressing where I am now. Is this move the answer? Will things work out there?
Thank you for your help
One dream is rarely enough to base a decision on...it's usually important to keep an eye on dreams through a series to see what the currents of Psyche seem to be indicating (which is one of the wonderful benefits of consistently paying attention to your dreams). In this case, however...such a powerful synchronistic event, as well as the content of the dream itself would certainly be a compelling sign that the contemplated move would be beneficial. I would find it difficult to oppose such a sign...and find it impossible to ignore in any case.
Putting an end to waiting is a very delicate matter that usually requires more input...if there hasn't been enough of an indication...but this is not such a case. You are already on your correct path. That is the crucial thing to realize. Waiting is also part of the path. This is something we in the West are all loathe to believe and do. Waiting is Wu Wei. Actively not interfering in things. Going about our business while we allow the currents of the zeitgeist to let us know when the time is ripe for action. Sometimes sitting in one place produces tremendous movement...it simply isn't visible to our senses. Think of it this way...babies don't require ultrasound to grow. We don't need to know their sex for them to have one...a gender, that is. All pregnant mothers know waiting. All pregnant mothers practice Wu Wei. The outcome is not always what we would wish, but the process is virtually out of our hands. The only control we have is over our own attitude and perspective.
Stagnant water is not necessarily a bad thing, you know...(it depends on your perspective). The swamp is a great souce of life. Things have a way of settling out and depositing themselves on the bottom when there is no apparent motion in the water. It is also anything but sterile! We have a great horror of other living organisms, believing that a germ is naturally harmful and destructive. Perhaps it is harmful to drink stagnant water...but dysenteric organisms and cholera are not in every rain puddle. Dogs drink out of the toilet. What I mean to say is that there is life in stagnant water...in even a lack of outward motion (remember Wu Wei). There is also progress in the living forms that make stagnant water their home. Life IS progress. Who are we to judge progress...especially when all we can see is what we think we know. In 2 weeks you will already see motion in what has occurred during this time. That is one of the great advantages of hindsight. It's simply looking at the present from another perspective.
This move will answer many things...but only you're willingness to listen and see what unfolds will provide the real answer you need. Things always have a way of working out. If we stay in tune with the zeitgeist, no matter where we are...we're in the right place...and we learn to do just the right things. Life progresses, and we can only learn to cooperate. It's an art...a very fertile and passionate one.
kristo